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Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla are a fun-loving, sexually adventurous couple that are slowly dipping their toes in the lifestyle. We are part of the daily grind of kids, careers, coffee, dishes, wine, soccer games, & parent/teacher conferences. So come the weekend, we love to get our kids into bed early, and then run to our bedroom, drink wine and connect on every level. We have been married for over 18 years, and we are incredibly very happy, deep in love and still very hot for each other! We have never considered ourselves vanilla by the traditional meaning, but more like ‘Dirty Vanilla’ or ‘Swanilla’! Mrs. Swanilla has always been very bi-curious/bi-situational and appreciates how sexy women can be. We have always been very erotic, kinky, and sexually adventurous and enjoy many things the lifestyle has to offer as it enhances an already great sex life! Mr. Swanilla does most of the online stuff (he enjoys it more), but Mrs. Swanilla always knows what’s going on. Be sure to follow our blog to see where our journey takes us!

The Swanilla's

The Swanilla's

Sunday, October 22, 2017

Happy Halloween from Beyond Our Bedroom

Hello lovelies,

While we have not had a chance to post our wonderful memories of our amazing and life-changing trip to Desire from a couple months ago, or our trip to a sexy club with friends last month. We promise the stories will be worth the wait!!! We have several stories ready to go, and even ended up having intense passionate sex while typing them, reading them and talking about our memories. A laptop repair also delayed us in getting our posts out.

In the meantime, have a sexy and naughty Halloween! We are headed to Toronto to see a few couples we met at Desire. It will be a lot of fun to see everyone and have a mini-Desire reunion.

We did change our blog address to http://www.beyondourbedroom.com/ so be sure to bookmark the new address! Look for several new blog posts soon.


The Swanilla's 

Are these our costumes for the sexy Halloween party?????

Monday, August 28, 2017

Guest Blog: Returning to Desire for second time

Hello Lovelies, 

We have a lovely couple that we know from fun gatherings in the past, B&J. We are posting their take as a guest blog post for their second time returning to Desire. 


Guest Blog: Returning to Desire for the second time

As we get our things together for our second trip to Desire, our thoughts go back to that first trip. For transparency, be aware that we were two years into our Lifestyle (LS) journey before we stepped foot into Mexico, so we were not complete newbies. We had already attended a few hotel takeovers, visited multiple clubs, etc. so we were excited but not afraid of what we would see. Plus, we had some friends whose trip overlapped ours that we would be meeting. I’ll refer to us as B&J, because if those are your initials, why not?

We booked pretty last minute through the resort website and had maybe a month to get outfits together and think about what the resort would really be like. Photos on a website can be misleading and some of our club experiences back that up, so expectations were high because of reviews but also realistic. We didn’t think the resort would be filled with only the model types they use on the website. The flight was fun; trying to scope out who might be heading our way is a must. The instructions they give for your hotel transfer were helpful and specific, so we had no problems finding our driver. J likes it warm but B was happy the car had the ac cranked for the trip over.

When you walk in the door, you are treated with respect; the service is amazing. Our luggage disappeared, we were shown to seats and handed flutes of champagne. J had to go through three or four glasses by the time we went through check in, wristbands, the rules. Every time your glass is empty, another magically appears until you say no thank you. The check-in process is meant to make sure everyone has their privacy protected and feels safe. No means no everywhere, even at an LS resort 

After a quick tour, we headed to the pool bar with our carry-on and grabbed seats and drinks. People in various states of dress and undress were mingling on the deck and in the water. The bar has a dry side that faces the lunch buffet and a swim up the side so you don’t have to leave the water (side note: the pool deck can be VERY slippery when you get out, proceed with caution). Before you know it, some very nice couples had introduced themselves and stated: “First time here, huh?” B & J wondered if we had newbie wristbands but were assured it was because we were still clothed.

We hadn’t thought to pack suits in our travel on, but it took very little encouragement for J to head to the ladies room to ditch her travel clothes. J loves being naked. B is usually more of a voyeur and less of an exhibitionist, but the resort feels safe and natural, so he headed to the men’s room and we both were down to undies before our friends found us. It wasn’t long before someone came and informed us our room was ready, our luggage was waiting for us and we went to change into suits.

We’ll be honest, the room we paid for is not a high-end luxury suite. We’ve stayed in fancier rooms. But the rooms are clean, bright, large beds and functional bathrooms. The mini-fridge is stocked with water, soda, and beer. J always unpacks when we get into a hotel room, so she loved the large closet that held all our outfits and luggage. The view from our room was amazing and we lucked out on the location. Just far, enough away from the lobby bar to mute late night noise, but close enough to be a quick trip to all the action. And hopefully, you won’t be spending much time in the room anyway.

The pool is a great place to meet new people. The Riviera Maya pool is more active, chatty… lots of kissing and touching. The Pearl pool was a bit more reserved, maybe because it’s larger and people are spread farther out. There is also beach areas at both resorts, RM having more room and a bar right on the beach. It also has a row of beds behind the lounge chairs. The year we were there, they were off limits for sex. The beach has security even at night so we felt safe heading down together or alone at any time.

We both felt the food was great. Breakfast was a buffet in the largest restaurant. Definitely, try one of the special juice blends for a quick recovery/ morning pickup. You can get a made to order omelet, browse dishes that range from traditional Mexican to what you would find in an American place. J’s a foodie, so she tried as many different foods as possible. She also doesn’t eat dairy and was thrilled to find many choices that were dairy free. Lunch for us was at the poolside buffet most days. One day we were spending a lazy day poolside (reserve a bed early if you want to be sure to get one) and they delivered us wonderful hamburgers and drinks without having to leave the lounges.

Dinners have choices. Reserve early if you want one of the smaller places or your only choice will be the larger restaurant where breakfast is served. We ate at all of the restaurants at Desire Riviera Maya and one at Pearl. Service is outstanding! You have choices and will never be hungry. They have no problem bringing you a second entree if you are still hungry. We did manage to get the Hibachi show one night. Space is limited on that so book early if you really want it. They were also super accommodating and seated our group of twelve at Sahlo, which is supposed to be a more intimate setting. They also were willing to seat our party of 10 at Pearl when the tables are for four; we sat five ladies at one table and the five men at another. The talk was great and the men sent over champagne.

Remember that although this is a clothing optional resort, the board of health rules require
Picture is NOT J; just an example 
clothing at restaurants. B would just throw a shirt over his bathing suit at lunch; J bought a variety of beach wraps, some were sheer, but still acceptable for breakfast and lunch. After a day of lounging around naked or nearly naked, most people dressed nicely for dinner (theme night outfits would show up after dinner). Evenings after dinner are about the club, drinks and late night made to order pizza (note: you are not supposed to feed the raccoons your pizza crusts, but they show up looking for it anyway).

Thoughts on clothing (or not)
You will see a variety of dress and a variety of body types. One of the things J took away from this trip is how quickly the lack of clothing just becomes a non-issue. What you put on for theme nights is more interesting than when someone takes it all off later. The first day at the resort, J was walking on the beach while B took a recovery power nap. A charming young man wandered up to introduce himself (and point out his wife taking her recovery power nap on one of the beach beds). He started with “Hi! Does it make you nervous to have a naked stranger walk up and introduce themselves?” To which the answer was no.

Theme nights: 
J loves them, so of course, she packed outfits for both her and B for every night. She wore one or two. Not sure if it was just that week, but most nights the themes were ignored and people went from dinner to the club to the hot tub or the bar in the courtyard. J was typically in panties eating pizza by 1 or 2 am. B prefers shorts. J is hoping the theme outfits are more prevalent this trip.

(Resort sponsored) Yoga (Pearl had Zumba while we were there), pool volleyball (we missed the foam party by a day, making sure we’re there this time), couples massage which B wouldn’t do but we heard great things (remember he’s more of a voyeur), Pearl had beach volleyball every day, they had a popular LS radio show doing live broadcast every other day at each resort. There were other options but we really spent our days talking or relaxing.

The People: 
Even if you hit a time, when there are not tons of LS people, anyone who chooses Desire for their vacation is going to be pretty open minded. Most LS people will be open, honest, and straightforward and it was not any different here. Be ready to hear stories about how asking a couple walking past to take pictures in their room turn into amazing foursomes. Chatting in the pool, I had a couple compliment my breasts and ask if they could kiss them. We never had anyone be disrespectful or touch without asking.

Favorite memories: 
B took his first yoga class, went for his first massage and would actually lounge completely naked at the pool! J loved waking up as the sun was rising, tottering naked to the bar and getting a cup of coffee to take to the beach and watch the sunrise. Having late night sex in the forbidden beach beds with the security guard pretending to not notice. We hear they are not off limits anymore, which takes some of the fun out of it. Dancing in the rain to a reggae band with the sexy ladies. Dancing like a Jamaican according to the band requires the ladies to line up in front of the stage, feet wide, knees bent and get nice and loose :-)

The men’s changing room at Pearl!
We took our day pass over to Pearl to spend the day with friends and asked if there was a place that we could change before dinner. They showed us to the ladies and men’s rooms near the lobby. The men’s room leads to the spa. For safety, men are not allowed into the ladies room (J checked it out, nice but a bathroom) but ladies are allowed in the men’s room if accompanied by their partner. There were lockers that we ditched our clothes in then walked through to find the showers. Beautiful is an understatement. Big hot tub, deep plunge whirlpool, steam room, showers with multiple shower heads… I can’t believe we were the only couple taking advantage of it.

We didn’t know there was a Desire Resorts forum, we didn’t know the hot tub was the place to be in the afternoon and late night, and we have a great knack for making friends with people you’d swear are LS to find out they’re just open minded. We are masters of the friend zone.

The yoga mats were bad and they will give you the Premier time-share sales pitch. Honestly, we have no other complaints.

And for the sake of transparency, we’re now Premier members.  


Saturday, August 12, 2017

We're headed back to Desire!

Hello Lovelies,

We hope everyone is having a very sexy and sensual summer so far. Things have been busy in our vanilla/day to day life and we haven’t had a lot of time for sexy fun. But the good news is we are headed back to Desire Riviera Maya very soon and staying a week this time!

It has been a lot of fun chatting with not only sexy couples ahead of time on various platforms and getting to know many couples that will be there the same time as us. But knowing, that they all seem like good people. We are really looking forward to getting away and enjoying ourselves. Life has been hectic for a long time and we are ready for cold beverages, meeting new friends, naps on the beach, craziness in the pool, happy hours in the hot tub, dressing up for dinner and sexy theme nights. But overall we are really looking forward to spending time together as a couple. We have a lot to celebrate and we are looking forward to a sexy vacation!

 We have a lot of sexy, sensual and swanilla fun planned for the new few months and look forward to seeing old friends and making new ones.

Also, we are going to do a few different things on our blog from time to time. With one being having a guest couple post a sexy story or two. It could be related to Desire, a Lifestyle club/hotel takeover or a fun experience somewhere else, etc. We will have a guest post shortly from a couple that we know from fun times in Toronto & who will be at Desire the same time as us very soon.

Be sure to check back often for updated blog posts, you never know where our journey may take us.

Kisses, 💋💋💋

Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla

Sunday, June 25, 2017

Summer is here! What's new with The Swanilla's???

Hello Lovelies,

Mr & Mrs. Swanilla checking in after quite some time since our last post! We hope everyone is doing well!

Simply put, we have had been extremely busy the first several months into 2017 that we have struggled to have our regular date nights and reconnect. Life has been busy but we are finally seeing some commitments coming to an end so we can focus on things that are sexier!

We had a lot of family events from before Thanksgiving through the holidays and well into 2017. Because our logistics and schedules were a little off the last few months, it actually took us until the second week of January to exchange our sexy stockings that we do. Thanks to Mr & Mrs. Jones from the We Gotta Thing podcast for the idea of the sexy stockings! We have done it a couple years in a row now and it does make it a lot easier to have a dedicated theme night and fun gift exchange. In years past we would try to sneak a gift when no one was around or later in the day. So having a separate night that is essentially a Sexy and fun Christmas date night does make it easier. Especially when you know that the house will be full of family and friends for days at a time. We had a lot of fun on our stocking exchange, even if we had to wait until mid-January to do it. Mrs. Swanilla got a new toy, the cordless version of the Magic Wand and also some sexy lingerie (see pic)

..and the model even looks like Mrs. Swanilla too!- Swinger Diaries 
We ended 2016 with a fun trip to Toronto and a visit to the club for their annual Halloween party. We were able to make a weekend out of it this time and spend a few days in Toronto and enjoy some time together. We decided to go for the weekend and noticed it was Latin Dance/Club Havana night at the club. It was our first time experiencing a Friday night at the club and we weren’t sure what to expect. As we looked into going both nights, we realized that select single guys were allowed on Fridays. As we discussed it Mrs. Swanilla said: “If the club is as classy as we know they are, I trust their judgment on finding guys that would be respectful and not creepers”. It made me feel a lot better hearing her not only say that but that she was at ease. Other husbands/boyfriends may relate to this, but it makes the night and experience more enjoyable knowing that your beautiful wife is not only at ease but feels safe and respected so she can enjoy herself and focus on things like the shoes that match her outfit. Plus we really wanted to experience a night of fun latin dancing. We both enjoy Latin dancing of merengue, salsa, and bachata. We went to a nice restaurant beforehand and had a great romantic dinner just the two of us and felt good just to reconnect after some busy schedules in our lives. We try to make an attempt to do that in our vanilla world as well on a regular basis.  

After dinner, we headed back to our hotel to change into outfits that were a little sexier and may not have been appropriate for the restaurant. Unless we were having dinner at Desire! As we were leaving we noticed several young kids around the hotel playing hallway hockey and their parents all in one room just drinking with the door open. We somewhat thought “well it’s Friday, I am sure they will all be gone by tomorrow when the hotel is full of fun people in the lifestyle headed to the Halloween party."

We arrived at the club, grabbed a drink and checked out the place. The music was fun and we knew we would have a great time no matter what, as we have each other first and foremost. We didn’t notice any single guys anywhere and honestly forgot about it being a Friday night. We did notice that as the night progressed that there were maybe 30-35 people there total and it was a slower night than we had thought. But then it hit us, this is the night before one of the biggest Swinger/Lifestyle events of the year. In the lifestyle, it seems that Halloween, Valentine's Day and New Years are very big events of course. Although it was slower than we thought, we had a lot, of fun just dancing latin music together, and noticing some of the other couples. We could tell there were a few couples that it may have been their first time there and they looked a little nervous. There was one couple that had a little look of nervousness but looked sexy, Mrs. Swanilla whispered to me “I  just stared at them like I was eye fucking them and she turned away nervously

After a few dances, Mrs. Swanilla said she was going to the bar to get us a couple of cocktails. Because it was slower than usual, and we had already spent our first time at Desire in Mexico, we both felt like our confidence has improved and didn’t have anywhere near the nervousness we had in the past. When she came back, she mentioned that there was a guy at the bar really checking her out up and down. She said she gave him a smile and looked for his wife or girlfriend, and then she realized he was alone. Agh, the single guy. More on this in a future post.

Towards the end of the night, we realized that the mood wasn’t quite there for us to head to the back playroom. But we did notice two couples that hit it off and they both had a little nervousness between the four of them. We thought of possibly heading to the back area to at least play near them and enjoy the show. But we couldn’t tell if they had a private room or went to the open play area. So we decided to call it a night, head back to the hotel and have our own fun! As we were ready to call it a night, a lady that had been friendly to us earlier stopped Mrs. Swanilla and says “aren’t you guys going to the back playroom?” Mrs. Swanilla said to her, “no, not tonight sweetie but we will be here again tomorrow for the Halloween party”. The girl had a playful pout on her face as we smiled. Only if she had asked 20 minutes earlier.

Once we got back to the hotel, within seconds we were both just going at it in a very intense and sensual way! Just being in that environment with only a small crowd still got us in the mood. The combination of being away for the weekend, having a great time together all night and perhaps the confidence or spark that a couple people had flirted with us got us both very hot! We both had a few cocktails in us and weren’t at home so didn’t care how loud we were at 2am! Of course the next morning we realized right across the hall were several rooms full of kids and parents for a hockey tournament! We totally forgot! That made an awkward and somewhat fun time at the continental breakfast buffet in the hotel!

The next day we decided to head to downtown Toronto and do a little exploring while in town. We have been to Toronto several times, both for sexy fun weekends and for family vacations. We love the city and always find something new to see, a cool area to check out or just to head towards Lake Ontario or downtown and check it out. After spending the afternoon playing tourists, we headed back to the hotel to start getting ready for Halloween party. We both were excited as this brought back memories of theme nights we had from not only previous club visits but our trip to Desire a few months prior. We both decided to wear outfits that were a little more revealing than we would have in the past. It may have been because we feel more comfortable after spending several days in Mexico with new friends naked most of the day. And perhaps we both just felt like we were in good shape and could pull off certain outfits.

Sexy Halloween Party

As we got ready to our fun and sexy playlist #SexySwanilla full of sensual music, Latin dance, and music that just makes you smile! We reassured each other how great the other looked and how we were looking forward to a fun time. It’s always fun to leave your room to the hotel lobby not knowing who you will see in the hallway and hope you don’t bump into several families or vanilla’s on your way to the lobby to meet others headed to the club. Of course, as we open our door the hockey parents are in their room with other parents in their sweatpants, watching TV and see us headed to some sort of Halloween party! What were they thinking.....?????

As we reach the elevator there are two other couples that are all dressed up, or actually not really dressed at all with their outfits. We all smile and laugh and say “where are you guys headed?” It almost seems when you’re in a hotel that isn’t a complete take over you’re always nervous as to who may see you that isn’t part of the lifestyle or the party at least that night. But once you reach the elevator or other like-minded people or the hotel lobby where there seems to be several of us it's very easy to hang out, share some laughs and strike up conversations with others about the club or the lifestyle in general. Perhaps strength in numbers. We ended up chatting with a couple from New York as we waited on the shuttle about Desire and our trip and how they go a couple times a year as well. It’s fun to chat so you have a familiar face at the club later you can say hello to again or have taking fun pics while dressed up in your costumes.

Once we arrived at the club in the shuttle we were able to skip the line since so many people staying at the hotel had done an early check-in with the club earlier that day. The crowd Saturday night compared to Friday night was night and day difference. You could barely find a place to stand let alone dance on Saturday. We were able to stand, dance, sit anywhere we wanted on Friday. This was our third Halloween party at the club and it had to be the biggest we had seen.

Despite being in such a larger crowd, we had the pleasure of finally meeting the lovely Penn & Paige from the Swinger Diaries podcast. They are such a wonderful, fun and sexy couple who compliment each other very well. It actually felt like we already had known each other from chatting over the years and of course listening to them on car rides or over a glass of wine. While chatting Penn laughed and of course we recognized his laugh from the podcast. It was great to finally catch up with them, and have a drink together. If you haven’t met them in person yet, they are just as sweet as you would imagine!

As the night progressed the temperature of the room was definitely heating up on many levels! We noticed several people getting in the mood on the dance floor, on the couches around the dance floor so we decided to head to the back playroom. Depending on the time you head to the back playroom, you tend to see sexier things on the dance floor as the mood hits people at a certain time of the night. As we got undressed and made our way back to playroom, we both felt very comfortable and not nearly as nervous as we had in the past. We figured being at Desire for several days a few months prior help shed certain nerves. We had butterflies on the possibilities of the evening, but nervous wasn't the right word as we undressed and walked slowly through the playroom enjoying the scenery around us. We found ourselves in the larger back playroom. We had never been in the room before besides looking in briefly. But the sounds, and views were too much and we just had to see more. After taking our time to enjoy the sights and sounds by slowly walking around and stopping and kissing along the way we finally found a spot on the large play area.

The perfect place to meet new friends 

As we are started to kiss and slowly touch each other the sounds were turning us both on to another level. Mrs. Swanilla couldn't handle it and slowly pushed my face down her body until I was able to slowly kiss and lick her in all the right places. After a few minutes of tasting her, I opened my eyes and noticed some sexy hands caressing her body. She really was enjoying the attention she was receiving and was on sensory overload. After a few more minutes of enjoying my tongue and the hands of new friends, she turned me over and started sucking me. We watched each other in the mirrors all around us, watched the sexy couples next to us on the side, the foursome on our other side. Mrs. Swanilla finally told me to start fucking her! She was so wet and juicy on top of her surroundings that she was becoming one of the loudest in the room! It was pretty hot to see so many couples in the middle of playing, stop in the middle of play and just pop their heads up and watch us. Almost like little prairie dogs sticking their heads up to watch, and then went back to their own fun! To say we enjoyed ourselves that night would be an understatement.

About a week later we were having a fun sexy twitter chat and doing some Q&A with others about their sexy Halloween fun! We tweeted on the chat that we enjoyed ourselves at the club in Toronto, and noticed a response from Swinger Diaries that said: "We enjoyed the show that Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla put on for everyone". We started laughing as we hadn't realized they were in the same room, as we had 'lost' them in the puppy pile.

A few weeks later there was a fun chat on Twitter among some lifestyle couples and the question was about possible sexy gifts for Christmas. I posted the pic above of model in the pink lingerie and that I was going to buy that for Mrs. Swanilla for her naughty stocking gift. There was a fun response from Swinger Diaries that said ....and the model even looks like Mrs. Swanilla too! After Mrs. Swanilla opened her stocking and tried on her sexy lingerie, I showed her the tweet and she smiled in her usual playful way!

Stay tuned for more blog posts and updates as we have some fun topics in the works, some sexy travel scheduled, and other events we are thinking of attending.


Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla

Tuesday, June 13, 2017

Best Lifestyle Blog 2017! We've been nominated!

Hello Sexy Friends! 

We received notice that we have been nominated for Best Lifestyle Blog at the 2017 Annual Lifestyle Awards. We are very humbled that someone nominated us, and that many of you are enjoying our sexy stories on our blog. We consider this a fun and creative outlet to share our journey and stories and it's pretty special to be in the same category with so many other great lifestyle blogs. 

There are also categories for Best Lifestyle Podcast, Best Lifestyle Resort, Best Lifestyle Clubs, and Best Lifestyle Educators. While we have our favorites, each podcast, blog, educator, resort, club, etc. offers something for just about everyone in the lifestyle or those that are curious to learn more. Just like there are 31 flavors at Baskin Robbins, chose your favorite flavor. However, vanilla probably isn't on the menu!

The Swanilla's
Swanilla, not Vanilla

Please take the time to vote for us if you feel we provide a fun look at the lifestyle through our blog.

Vote Here: http://www.annuallifestyleawards.com/vote-here-new/ 

While we wish we could be at Naughty in N'awlins this year with the other sexy nominees in all the categories, we are unable to make it. But in other sexy news we are headed back to Desire this summer. 


Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla

Tuesday, December 20, 2016

Have a Sexy Holiday Season!

Hello Lovelies! Tis the season!

We wanted to wish everyone a wonderful Holiday season filled with joy & so much more in 2017! Hopefully, you get to be naughty this season and have lots of sexy fun!

New stories and posts coming soon!

Hugs & Kisses

Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla
Beyond Our Bedroom

Thursday, December 1, 2016

Sexy Desire postcards from our trip!

Haven't read our sexy Desire trip stories yet? Have you always wondered what the resort is like? Maybe you have been there several times but like to read up on what others have experienced there? Be sure to do so here for fun stories and sexy memories of our first time there and being naked all week!  #sexyswanilla 

Thursday, October 20, 2016

Desire Trip Report: Our last night & last dance (snapshot)

Our last night & last dance at Desire!

This is our version of a snapshot that we shared together on our last night at Desire. Snapshots are a great story or memory that Mr. & Mrs. Jones from the We Gotta Thing podcast have been sharing, and we wanted to share ours.

It was our last night at Desire and we knew we were going to live it up and make every moment count. It was masquerade night and we both wore sexy outfits and love the theme nights. We went into the disco and the night was just getting started. Due to weather most people were in the disco, so it was packed. After saying hello to some new friends, we hit the dance floor and lived it up. We both enjoy dancing but Mrs. Swanilla likes it even more when there is Latin music playing. Being on the dance floor to the right type of music, with the right mix of sexy people, having a great dinner earlier with new friends from Brazil, and having a great experience earlier in the day we were both on cloud 9 at this point. Just embracing each other in the music, the sensual dancing, and soaking up every minute of it while staring into each other’s eyes!  After about 20 minutes of dancing, we head to the bar to grab a drink. A couple approached us and the gentleman said to Mrs. SwanillaIf you don’t mind me saying so, you are absolutely beautiful and you guys are very sexy to watch on the dance floor!” 

Dancing our night away
Mrs. Swanilla thanked him and we all chatted for a few minutes. He explained he recognized us from a private online group that was set up for those headed to Desire so we introduced ourselves and we chatted with him and his lovely wife. He proceeded to tell us both the following: “It has been a true pleasure watching you guys dance, and having a great time out there. We can tell that you guys are truly in love with each other and just wanted to say it’s been a lot of fun just watching the two of you get lost in each other in a room full of so many sexy people”.

We both truly felt the sincerity of his words and we chatted for a little about the resort, the lifestyle and more. Then, one of our favorite songs came on, (see song below) and we said “can’t miss this song, give us a minute and we can chat again”. As we embraced each other on the dance floor after hearing such nice comments, it gave us a sense of even more love and affection than we already had that night and truly made us feel special that another couple took the time to say something so sweet to us. It just made us feel so nice hearing that from someone that isn’t part of our daily life.

As we lived it up on the dance floor and just had an amazing time between the two of us. We realized after awhile that we had the dance floor to ourselves and a few other couples, as most of the place cleared out as everyone headed to the playroom or hot tub. The DJ just kept playing great songs in a similar latin dance style. He was definitely reading the room by playing the right music. We then realized what time it was, and went into the playroom to see if we liked the vibe happening in there. We decided to head to the hot tub to live it up there one last night before heading home to reality in the morning. At one point on the way to the hot tub, I asked Mrs. SwanillaDid Pitbull and Enrique Iglesias cock block me from getting to the hot tub sooner?" We both laughed and she said: "Pretty much! Thank you baby, I needed that night!" I told her it was my pleasure and love dancing with her.

We have so many memories from our first trip to Desire but this one really touched our hearts and made us feel like newlyweds after close to 20 years of marriage! 

As we headed to the hot tub, we slowly got undressed and went to dip our toes in the tub! But may have slipped and 'fell in' to the good times to be had with many new friends waiting for us to join them! Many kisses to Mr. & Mrs. Argentina, Mr. & Mrs. Las Vegas & Mr. & Mrs. Mexico for having such a wonderful time in the hot tub with us in our circle of fun! 

As we heard Mr. & Mrs. Jones say on their podcast We Gotta Thing recently in talking about their trip to Desire this summer, they said something just stuck with us and we related to. 

If you’ve ever been to Desire no explanation is necessary, if you haven’t no explanation is possible

Caution: Slippery When Wet!

                         A great song that has many memories of our last night at Desire! 

Monday, October 3, 2016

Desire Trip Report - Part 4 - New Friends & New Experiences

Desire Trip Report - Part 4 - New Friends & New Experiences

As we finish up our Desire trip reports, we have a few more memories that we wanted to share that may answer some questions for those that haven't been there yet. For those that have, they may relate to some of these perspectives as well. 

Some other memories of our first trip to Desire was meeting new people at the resort who became fast friends by the end of the trip. There are a lot of friendly and open minded people at a place like Desire, and many people are easy to talk to and open to having a conversation. Some may seem unapproachable because they may seem like “seasoned” swingers or lifestylers. Some may just know people from previous trips or just talking to others that they met there a couple days prior.

We found it very fascinating to learn a lot of people's stories and their journies, both in the lifestyle and just life in general. There was one couple that we chatted with throughout our time at Desire. They were from Chile and they were an older couple. They looked great and we couldn’t quite guess their age. At one point I saw Mrs. Swanilla chatting with them later in our visit by the pool. She was asking them a lot about their trip to Mexico and how often they visit. They said they were in their late 60’s (which we would have never guessed that) and they have had a great time in the lifestyle over the years. But that they are at a point where they love to visit Desire, people watch and see others having a great time and they feel they are passing the torch to others that are in the lifestyle or are dipping their toes to find their place or set their own pace within their journey. They essentially were telling us that their play days are somewhat winding down and to enjoy life and just have a great time! We felt that was both really sweet and humbling at the same time.

We were finally able to grab a beach bed on our last full day there and as we laid there, we had some great moments. We had our speaker with soft sensual music playing while we were ready to fall asleep in the afternoon sun and shade with the ocean in front of us. We then noticed these clouds way in the distance of the ocean, and how dark they were. But also how fast they were approaching our beach. We grabbed our things and before we realized it we were running towards one of the bars to get out of the rain. It was fun because we just grabbed a drink and ended up meeting a lovely couple from Canada and from Kansas. The Canadian couple knew of the XClub and had been there a few times themselves. They told us some fun stories and of experiences they had while traveling as well. 

After the storm passed we realized the beach beds were soaking wet and decided to head to the pool and ended up spending more time with our friends from Texas, Oklahoma, Argentina, and Brazil. After a long afternoon of more partying and playing we headed to the hot tub to warm up from the rain. As we started to relax in the warm water, things started heating up in the hot tub between a lot of us in late afternoon. There was a lot of flirting, group kissing, touching and then the vibe just happened. It was very natural with so many sensual and sexy couples around. As things were heating up, we were making out while standing up in the hot tub with our new friends around us.

Mrs. Swanilla had me sit on the edge of the hot tub with the stairs just behind me. She proceeded to give me an incredible blowjob with so many sexy people around us enjoying themselves and others that needed a little more help than just 1 on 1 next to us. A lady we had chatted with earlier in the pool was outside the hot tub and walked up behind me, grabbed my cock and essentially was feeding it to Mrs. Swanilla. It took me a minute to realize who was holding my cock! As she was sucking me, she had this very sexy look in her eyes. That look of pure bliss while making eye contact the entire time she was sucking me. As I look around the hot tub as Mrs. Swanilla is eye fucking me with my cock in her mouth, I notice the mood changed quickly in the hot tub, and there were several couples engaging in fun sexual activities.

Many guys were sitting on the edge of the hot tub while they were all being pleasured. All of this while a warm tropical rain was coming down and just made it much more passionate.  As we realized it was time to get cleaned up for dinner and the theme night, the Sexy Brazilian couple invited us to dinner at Sahlo our last night. It was a lot of fun, as we had a long conversation about many things in life and talked at length about many things that we have in common. We all noticed The Texas couple were also a few tables away from us. We invited them to join us but they were having a quiet evening with just the two of them. We joined them after dinner for a mini celebration and drink before heading to our rooms to change for the theme night. 

When the Mood Strikes.....

One thing we learned is that you can’t force a vibe or a mood. Like any sexual situation, you have to be in the mood and have the right surroundings. We realized that while we had some very sexy times in the hot tub, it took a few times to find the right vibe and just let it happen. We discovered a lot of what appeals to us and what we may do differently next time. A hot tub full of naked people sounds hot,(and it can be), it’s the vibe and sexual tension in the air that can affect the flow of the time there. To be clear it has nothing to do with body image or age. There were people of all shapes, sizes, ages, colors and that didn’t affect our mood one way or another. But one thing that did was being in the middle of a hot sexual activity and things really heating up between us and others around us. Those few minutes when the stars are out at night, the mood is sensual and things go from laughs and flirting to passion and moans. But one thing we found distracting was people having conversations really close by was somewhat distracting as it was very late at night, and the mood between a lot of us was heating up. Don't get us wrong, we love talking to people and learning their stories. But there were a couple moments where it may have been better for all of us if we all moved to a bed or two nearby and focus on each other. However, there were 5 couples in the middle of "stuff" and we didn't want to ruin the moments by suggesting we all move over to the beds. 

We realize that the hot tub is very hot and can be sexual, it has to have the right vibe, and all. When we have been to lifestyle clubs, one thing we noticed in the playroom is no one is allowed in their street clothes, everyone has to be naked. It doesn’t mean you to have to be part of a group orgy, but at least be naked (with your towel) and your partner and lay on the bed or couch and take in the atmosphere. When we get naked in the locker room and head to the back play area the walk to the back is really hot and sensual. You leave the locker room where many people are nervous getting naked no matter how you slice it. Then walk into this huge sexy room with lots of beds, couches, and more and see all kinds of fun. Couples having fun, threesomes happening next to you, couples soft swapping, couples full swapping and couples just laying on the beds naked just watching or wanting to be watched. But the atmosphere is so hot with all the sounds, and all of the possibilities above really are a major turn on. Everyone is on an equal playing field if you will. Not that everyone is fair game but being naked in the area, letting people watch, letting people hear the juicy and sexy sounds that are happening. Wow! Need to take a break as Mrs. Swanilla decided to suck me as we write & read this blog post together! :)

So on one hand, we were looking for that type of vibe at Desire in the playroom and the hot tub area. We had it in the playroom one night but it wasn’t the right vibe. We had an incredibly hot sex in the hot tub with lots of involvement from others in our ‘circle of fun’ which we think about and whisper to each other still months after our trip. The thoughts of those nights are very hot and get us in the mood for sure! We enjoy having the pillow talk after a bottle of wine and whispering to each other what we saw, what we did to others together and separately, it gets us very hot and we can’t wait to return to meet new friends, see old friends and make new sensual memories!  


Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla

PS –  We have one more blog post coming soon about our last night at Desire. It’s our version of the snapshot that Mr. & Mrs. Jones from the We Gotta A Thing Podcast are known for sharing! 

Saturday, August 20, 2016

Desire Trip Report: Part #3 – New Friends, The Foam Party & The United Nations?

Desire Trip Report: Day 3 – New Friends, The Foam Party & The United Nations? 

By our third day, things were definitely heating up! We started our morning like the day before, hot sex to help set the mood of the day. We were excited as many people and the staff told us not to miss the foam party in the pool that afternoon. We were very curious what it was going to be like.

We ran into the Texas Couple around late morning and ended up hanging out with them for most of the day in the pool. After a little bit, they introduced us to some sexy new friends they met from Brazil. What a great couple! She had the cutest smile and personality, and he was a true gentleman that you immediately realized was a good guy. We all shared many drinks and our lovely waitress Sylvia hooked us up with our new favorite drinks, the electric lemonade. As soon as our glasses were near empty she would be right there with a tray full of cold tasty drinks! After a few minutes, we noticed a couple more sexy couples and someone from our group had met them earlier.  They were a sexy couple from Las Vegas and another sexy couple from Argentina and we welcomed them with hugs and kisses to our group. At this point, there are five couples with another 1-2 couples having drinks with us on and off and talking to other friends nearby.  We had been in the pool at this point for close to 2.5 hours and knew the foam party would be starting about 2pm. It was about 1:45pm when Mrs. Swanilla and I looked at our friends and said: “oh shit, we forgot to eat lunch!” With all of their encouragement, they convinced us to just have another drink and eat lunch after the foam party. Not that it was hard to convince us to stay with so many sexy naked people in our group.

During this time there are sexy staff members and models that are walking around the pool putting on a fashion show with various pieces of clothes and lingerie. Shortly after that, the staff was dancing salsa near the pool. There was a great looking guy on the staff and Mrs. Swanilla made a comment on how good he was at dancing. Being Latina herself she can recognize great latin dancing from a mile away! While in the pool and watching him dance we realized he had to be the sexy latino that "A" from The Curious Couple referred to on their podcasts about Desire!

We noticed the staff setting up these large canisters near the pool and as we all grabbed another drink we noticed the music was getting louder, more of a party vibe was happening and the pool was packed! It seems many joined in to see what was told to us throughout the week there. Before we knew it the foam started and the party was underway. It was very cool seeing the foam on top of the water and everyone in their party vibe. Before we realized it there was a lot of foam on top of the pool and at some parts, it would be at least 3-6 feet higher than the water. Many mentioned that it could be claustrophobic for some. We joked around that we felt like it was the inside of a dishwasher. One thing that was funny was you would bump into people in the pool as it was hard to see where you going at times, especially in the middle of the pool. We ran into some new friends we met out first day there from Colorado. She is very sweet and he is a big flirt and couldn’t get enough of Mrs. Swanilla. He kissed her anytime he could and it was all very sweet and respectful, a true gentleman. Such a nice couple that we would love to see there again. Just good and fun people. He asked Mrs. Swanilla if she wanted to get on his shoulders and go into the foam across the pool. Before we knew it we were all laughing as we see Mrs. Swanila naked on top of his shoulders going into the foam and disappearing. All of us were joking with yelling her name saying “it was nice knowing you”. A few minutes later they emerge from across the pool covered in foamy soap suds. During the foam party which lasted a lot longer than we realized it would, the mood was definitely heating up! With so many sexy new friends and a lot of comfort between the couples, there was a sexual electricity in the air. Before we realized it there was a lot of touching, kissing, stroking and giggling happening. After enjoying our time together as a group of new friends, we realized the foam party was winding down and our friends from Texas mentioned that we should all head to the hot tub upstairs in a few minutes as it was late afternoon and we knew a few other friends were already up there. As everyone refreshed their drinks Mrs. Swanilla and I had a moment alone and kissed very passionately and checked in with each other to make sure we were both good, we were!

Many sexy memories were made here! 

Another great memory of our first trip to Desire was meeting new people at the resort who became friends by the end of the trip. As we were all getting in the hot tub we see our two other friends from earlier and they welcomed us. There was a circle of us in the smaller part of the hot tub. At one point there were about 5-6 couples all welcoming each other and getting to know each other with hugs,kisses and oh so much more! Many were from different countries and we joked around that we had our own United Nations welcoming committee in the hot tub. We had Mexico, Brazil, Argentina, Colombia and the great states of Texas, Georgia, Nevada, and Michigan representing the United States. Later I remembered our first trip to the XClub in Toronto and of their host gave us a tour of the club, and we were so nervous. He explained 'in the playroom the white couch off to the side was neutral territory and doesn’t get involved, ya know like Switzerland'. Just a fun memory with so much fun happening!

As everyone was busy touching, licking, kissing, and sucking I made the comment that "if the real United Nations was this friendly we could have world peace in an afternoon!" There were a lot of giggles and laughs in between the moans. Things started to heat up between everyone and before we realized it, we had a pretty decent tropical rain coming down on all of us as we were in the hot tub. At one point Mrs. Swanilla and I made eye contact in between all of the kissing and touching of new friends and we just had a moment of “look at this, sexy new friends in a hot tub in Mexico at a great resort with rain coming down on all of us.” I remember saying later, “For dipping our toes in the Lifestyle we seemed to have fallen in”.

Mrs. Swanilla ready to party!
At one point, all of the ladies were kissing passionately and taking turns just having very hot moments. Most of the guys were watching as Mrs. Brazil was in the middle of everyone and she was being slowly passed around to each lady in our group. She is very sexy and such a sweet person!  It was all playful fun and I felt we all were respectful of each other anyone's boundaries. As others started to join in, I noticed out of the corner of my eye that Mrs. Swanilla was kissing our new friends from Argentina, a lot. Not just her either, but both of them. Even though I was very close by, she turned to me and said “Mr. Swanilla, this is the first time that I have felt an attraction to both people of a couple!” as she proceeded to kiss both of them back and forth. This turned me completely on and got me very hot, and if Mrs. Swanilla wanted to take it any further with them I was totally ready! There was something about Mrs. Argentinas eyes that were very sexy and sensual! She was very sexy in many ways and he was a true gentleman. 

Mr. Swanilla ready for the night
After a fun afternoon with new friends, a lot of drinks and the evening   fast approaching we decided to head back to our room to have some alone time, reconnect, shower and get ready for dinner and also the theme night – Dress to Impress! And boy did Mrs. Swanilla look very sexy & stunning in her red dress! 

After a nice dinner just the two of us, we proceed to get ready for the sexy night ahead of us. There was a fun band playing and we danced on the open area on the outside patio where everyone hangs out before the nightclub opens that night. We said hello to new friends and after a drink we all proceeded to head to the disco for a fun night of dancing and more. 

Day 4 Coming soon! Stay tuned.....