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Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla are a fun-loving, sexually adventurous couple that are enjoying a sexy secret, Living in the Lifestyle. We are part of the daily grind of kids, careers, coffee, dishes, wine, soccer games, & parent/teacher conferences. So come the weekend, we love to get our kids into bed early, and then run to our bedroom, drink wine and connect on every level. We have been married for over 20 years, and we are incredibly happy, deeply in love and still very hot for each other! We have never considered ourselves vanilla by the traditional meaning, but more like Dirty Vanilla or Sensual Swingers + Dirty Vanilla = 'Swanilla’! We both appreciate how sexy women can be, making sexy connections with couples and that the lifestyle allows us to explore fantasies, create new ones and make sexy friendships along the way. We have always been very erotic and wild and enjoy many things the lifestyle has to offer as it enhances an already great sex life! Be sure to follow our blog to see where our journey takes us! Look for #SexySwanilla for fun & sexy Tweets

Sunday, October 28, 2012

Our First Time at a Lifestyle/Swingers Club! Full Review


Hello! So sorry it took so long to leave our review of our first time at swingers club!  We were planning to post our review sooner of our night, but just didn’t have time with all the touching & playing, and replaying that night in our heads the last several weeks! 

Our first time to a swingers club was very sexy, exciting, and passionate! Because it was so exciting and in reality a big step in exploring our comfort levels, we have a more in depth and detailed blog post this time. We feel if there are other couples that have thought about doing this or have done it, then its fun to share this with them. There are several podcasts and blogs that have been very helpful to us the last couple years, so we felt the need to share our experience with others. 

We took our time getting ready for the night, and both felt very excited, nervous and sexy as we got ready. It was sexier knowing the wife was going commando in a very short black dress that night! We arrived at the club around 10pm so we could have a tour before anything got started. When we walked through the doors there was a very nice host couple that made us felt very much at ease and relaxed. After a few introductions from the host couple, he proceeded to give us a tour of the club.  You have your bar area, dance area and some VIP/Bottle Service areas. After the general tour, he showed us the play-area which was towards the back of the club, and there is a separate 'check-in' with a lovely girl who assists you in letting you know what areas are available, getting a locker, etc.  This club not only has a large open play area, but also several private rooms with mirrors on the ceiling and some have windows so you can watch the action. More on that later!

The host explained the rules and a little history on the club. We felt very safe when he told us that there were close to 10,000 members at their club, and in 10 years they have never had a fight. He explained this has to do with mutual respect, understanding and privacy. This made us feel a lot better and asked us to be a little quiet in the hallway as a few doors were already closed and in use! He showed us the open area and what the rules are, the locker rooms, towels, and how everything is clean and keeping it clean is the goal. We felt so much better after seeing the open area (no one was playing just yet). He explained regardless of our comfort level in the lifestyle that we are welcome to watch, play, be watched, play with others, whatever our comfort level was.There was a large white leather couch next to the large open bed areas.  We loved how he described the couch as being like Switzerland – neutral ground and doesn’t get involved! Any questions we may have had went away, as he answered everything on our mind before we had a chance to ask. We’re sure that happens a lot with newbie’s!

View of the bar/dance area
So we go to the bar to get a drink and just took in the vibe. We noticed several nice looking couples around and we joked to ourselves “Do you think the regulars can tell we are newbie’s?”


We enjoyed ourselves at the bar for a bit and just somewhat confirmed a few things with each other of our own personal rules and a few what-if’s so neither of us was caught off guard if a situation presented itself that evening. We went in with no expectations except to have a great time with each other. But she knows that my biggest turn-on is to see her with another woman, and I know that she is curious from time to time. We’ll get more into fantasies in a future blog post.

After a few drinks we decided to head to the dance floor, as it seemed it went from 2 couples dancing one minute to a near packed floor in no time. We headed over to the floor and just danced and enjoyed each other for several songs. We just kept kissing, smiling, touching, laughing and noticed a few different hot women that got up on the dance poles. We enjoyed the views and noticed a few couples had some lite touching/flirting amongst each other while dancing. It felt nice to take it all in and be around other couples that were there for similar reasons and just being very open-minded. What was really hot was there was a very attractive lady who kept smiling at the wife. She didn’t have the courage yet to dance with her, but there was some mutual flirting from the distance happening. After talking about it, and hearing the wife say “that girl is totally checking me out, should I go dance with her?” I of course encouraged her. She decided to grab one more drink before she approached her. In that time she somewhat disappeared. 


So as the night went on we started noticing a couple here and there head towards the back play area. We decided to do a shot before we went in but by no means were wasted. As were dancing one more dance on the way to the play area, we noticed her ‘friend’ headed to the back. Granted we are newbie’s, but we were guessing etiquette would say not to approach someone while in line to get to the play area or in the hallway. 


We checked in with the lovely girl at the lounge area. We agreed earlier in the night that we would check out open area and take it all in, and if it wasn’t for us, we would get a private room. Well, the private rooms were all taken and the open area was packed! So we told her to keep us in mind for a private room but we would change out of our clothes and go to the open area. We go into the locker room and we both strip down and it felt great to shed our clothing! We each put our towels around each other and headed towards the back play area.


We walked down the hall and just got very turned on seeing couples together in the private rooms, hearing them having a great time. We noticed several threesomes, foursomes and one on one action in the rooms. It felt great to take it all in! 

The Hallway to the private rooms & open area in the distance
We got to the open area and walked around for a few minutes. Just took all the sights in and we both got very turned on! To our surprise the girl she had her eye on was in the middle of playing on one of the beds! What was funny and hot is she looked at the wife with a very sexy look while in the middle of playing with another couple and almost had that “you guys took too long to flirt with me” look. We didn’t mind watching her for a bit! It was nice and she seemed to know what she was doing!


So we stand near the couch (Switzerland) as there is another couple going at it on one side of the couch. We weren't sure if playing on the couch was allowed, but once we saw another couple playing we figured why not? Within a few minutes they were done. So we decided to sit on the couch and just take in the views, the sounds and everything while waiting for an open area in the large play area in front of us. 



The view from the couch!
 We started kissing and touching each other and couldn’t believe how hot it was to see what we were seeing, and hear what we were hearing. There had to be a couple dozen people all in the area just playing. We have had a fantasy for a long time to watch couples and be watched and it was essentially coming true. We started getting more and more into it, and before we even realized it, we found ourselves playing on the couch as there was no room in the beds or private rooms. We kept kissing, fingering, and touching while we were watching others in front of us. Before long she started riding me while I was sitting on the couch. I was sitting normal on the couch and she turned around and gave me a reverse cowgirl while facing several couples in front of us, to the side of us, and it felt great! We adjusted ourselves once we were alone on the couch (see that story below) and she proceeded to really fuck me hard. Hard enough that I knew I was going to cum inside of her soon, and I knew that is what she wanted. She fucked me harder and harder as I licked her tits. It felt so good to fucking in front of others knowing we were making them hot as well. She kept going faster the more I licked her until I just lost control and came inside her. We both enjoyed ourselves very much and lasted longer than we thought we would. It was very hot to look over and see other couples enjoying the show we were giving them. So Switzerland did get involved for once! 


To play or not to play?

There were a couple funky things that happened but are in no way a reflection of the club. When we started playing with each other on the couch, there was another couple next to us that had just sat down a couple minutes after us. The way we were sitting, I personally couldn’t make out who they were or anything, as the wife's hair was in my face. But at one point, while we were playing the guy started touching and rubbing my wife’s back while he was sitting with his girlfriend/wife. She looked over and realized it wasn’t my arm. She didn’t tell me while this was happening. He did it again, and she pushed his arm away. A minute later, this guy and his girl start arguing somewhat, and we think she didn't want to be there. She was complaining about something and was starting to be a buzz kill. We both thought about how important communication is BEFORE heading to the club, let alone the play area. Thankfully a minute later they left. She told me to take over the couch. So now that I knew something was making us somewhat uncomfortable, we just laid back and took the whole couch so this couple wouldn’t come back. It was fine after that.

What was kind of hot is afterwards we talked about the guy touching her. I explained I had no idea and that anyone should ALWAYS ask first. She was actually okay with it, saying “I mean if you are in the middle of playing, and want to touch I think I may be okay with that, just not this guy as he wasn’t attractive at all to me”. So we agreed that no one should touch without asking, but at the same time, it possibly brought us to a new conversation. When she told me her view that she could see why someone would want to touch in a nice, respectful way in the middle of playing, (perhaps by getting caught up in the moment) it made me very hard and turned on that she told me this. She knows I have fantasies of certain things and sometimes she teases me. I have told her that I have thought of her sucking another cock while I was going down on her. So once in awhile I will be going down on her and notice she is sucking on her favorite vibrator. She knows this teases me and turns me on and makes my mind wonder! 


We have talked several times and know that we enjoyed watching/being watched, as it was a major turn on! We would love to do it again, but are unsure if a club is the only way to go, or perhaps other possibilities? I think it would be fun to experience meeting other open minded couples at a bar, house party or hotel and of course other swinger/lifestyle clubs. In a perfect world it would be great to have other open-minded/non-vanilla friends that we see at a club or event and maybe explore our comfort levels with once in awhile. Possibly her playing with another girl. She knows that I would be okay if there was another couple that had sex next to us on a bed or couch either at club or maybe a hotel someday. But keeping our vanilla world separate from our non-vanilla world is important of course. It's too early to say but let’s just say we have replayed the night in our minds and out loud while having fun in bed a several times already!


Happy Endings?

One last thing that was somewhat comical that night. While she was on top of me on the couch, her hair was in my face and I couldn’t see much at one point. However, since we started playing on the couch we somewhat lost track of what else was around us besides other couples. There was a water jug in the corner for guests to grab a sip. The wife was facing towards the water jug while she was fucking me with her on top.

We heard a couple people getting drinks of water and I remember hearing them getting so much water and thinking “well, they just got done and probably are really thirsty”. My wife proceeds to tell me that she could see everything and there was a guy standing there practically posing while drinking water and the guy’s dong was nearly in her face as the way he was standing there and not in a good way! The only thing I could hear was the water jug sounding like some was filling a gallon of water. She said he burped out loud too and she was like “really, how is that HOT!?!?! Move on!” She didn’t tell me this until afterwards and we ended up laughing about it. We both have a pretty good sense of humor so it was all good, even if awkward for a moment. Thankfully this didn’t ruin her big moment as it happened shortly thereafter!



We can't wait to return to the club sometime in the near future. But we have a lot of commitments in our vanilla lives through the end of the year. Hopefully in the winter we can make our way back to the club or explore other options or curiosities that may come up.

If any of you are on the fence about going or unsure of what to expect. Just do it! As long as you are open-minded and have good communication as a couple, your only regret will be you didn’t go sooner!



Have any of you been to a swingers/lifestyle club or party? If so, please feel free to share your comments, stories or advice.


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