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Detroit, Michigan, United States
Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla are a fun-loving, sexually adventurous couple that are slowly dipping their toes in the lifestyle. We are part of the daily grind of kids, careers, coffee, dishes, wine, soccer games, & parent/teacher conferences. So come the weekend, we love to get our kids into bed early, and then run to our bedroom, drink wine and connect on every level. We have been married for over 18 years, and we are incredibly very happy, deep in love and still very hot for each other! We have never considered ourselves vanilla by the traditional meaning, but more like ‘Dirty Vanilla’ or ‘Swanilla’! Mrs. Swanilla has always been very bi-curious/bi-situational and appreciates how sexy women can be. We have always been very erotic, kinky, and sexually adventurous and enjoy many things the lifestyle has to offer as it enhances an already great sex life! Mr. Swanilla does most of the online stuff (he enjoys it more), but Mrs. Swanilla always knows what’s going on. Be sure to follow our blog to see where our journey takes us!

The Swanilla's

The Swanilla's

Thursday, October 20, 2016

Desire Trip Report: Our last night & last dance (snapshot)

Our last night & last dance at Desire!

This is our version of a snapshot that we shared together on our last night at Desire. Snapshots are a great story or memory that Mr. & Mrs. Jones from the We Gotta Thing podcast have been sharing, and we wanted to share ours.

It was our last night at Desire and we knew we were going to live it up and make every moment count. It was masquerade night and we both wore sexy outfits and love the theme nights. We went into the disco and the night was just getting started. Due to weather most people were in the disco, so it was packed. After saying hello to some new friends, we hit the dance floor and lived it up. We both enjoy dancing but Mrs. Swanilla likes it even more when there is Latin music playing. Being on the dance floor to the right type of music, with the right mix of sexy people, having a great dinner earlier with new friends from Brazil, and having a great experience earlier in the day we were both on cloud 9 at this point. Just embracing each other in the music, the sensual dancing, and soaking up every minute of it while staring into each other’s eyes!  After about 20 minutes of dancing, we head to the bar to grab a drink. A couple approached us and the gentleman said to Mrs. SwanillaIf you don’t mind me saying so, you are absolutely beautiful and you guys are very sexy to watch on the dance floor!” 

Dancing our night away
Mrs. Swanilla thanked him and we all chatted for a few minutes. He explained he recognized us from a private online group that was set up for those headed to Desire so we introduced ourselves and we chatted with him and his lovely wife. He proceeded to tell us both the following: “It has been a true pleasure watching you guys dance, and having a great time out there. We can tell that you guys are truly in love with each other and just wanted to say it’s been a lot of fun just watching the two of you get lost in each other in a room full of so many sexy people”.

We both truly felt the sincerity of his words and we chatted for a little about the resort, the lifestyle and more. Then, one of our favorite songs came on, (see song below) and we said “can’t miss this song, give us a minute and we can chat again”. As we embraced each other on the dance floor after hearing such nice comments, it gave us a sense of even more love and affection than we already had that night and truly made us feel special that another couple took the time to say something so sweet to us. It just made us feel so nice hearing that from someone that isn’t part of our daily life.

As we lived it up on the dance floor and just had an amazing time between the two of us. We realized after awhile that we had the dance floor to ourselves and a few other couples, as most of the place cleared out as everyone headed to the playroom or hot tub. The DJ just kept playing great songs in a similar latin dance style. He was definitely reading the room by playing the right music. We then realized what time it was, and went into the playroom to see if we liked the vibe happening in there. We decided to head to the hot tub to live it up there one last night before heading home to reality in the morning. At one point on the way to the hot tub, I asked Mrs. SwanillaDid Pitbull and Enrique Iglesias cock block me from getting to the hot tub sooner?" We both laughed and she said: "Pretty much! Thank you baby, I needed that night!" I told her it was my pleasure and love dancing with her.

We have so many memories from our first trip to Desire but this one really touched our hearts and made us feel like newlyweds after close to 20 years of marriage! 

As we headed to the hot tub, we slowly got undressed and went to dip our toes in the tub! But may have slipped and 'fell in' to the good times to be had with many new friends waiting for us to join them! Many kisses to Mr. & Mrs. Argentina, Mr. & Mrs. Las Vegas & Mr. & Mrs. Mexico for having such a wonderful time in the hot tub with us in our circle of fun! 

As we heard Mr. & Mrs. Jones say on their podcast We Gotta Thing recently in talking about their trip to Desire this summer, they said something just stuck with us and we related to. 


If you’ve ever been to Desire no explanation is necessary, if you haven’t no explanation is possible


Caution: Slippery When Wet!

                         A great song that has many memories of our last night at Desire! 

Monday, October 3, 2016

Desire Trip Report - Part 4 - New Friends & New Experiences


Desire Trip Report - Part 4 - New Friends & New Experiences

As we finish up our Desire trip reports, we have a few more memories that we wanted to share that may answer some questions for those that haven't been there yet. For those that have, they may relate to some of these perspectives as well. 

Some other memories of our first trip to Desire was meeting new people at the resort who became fast friends by the end of the trip. There are a lot of friendly and open minded people at a place like Desire, and many people are easy to talk to and open to having a conversation. Some may seem unapproachable because they may seem like “seasoned” swingers or lifestylers. Some may just know people from previous trips or just talking to others that they met there a couple days prior.

We found it very fascinating to learn a lot of people's stories and their journies, both in the lifestyle and just life in general. There was one couple that we chatted with throughout our time at Desire. They were from Chile and they were an older couple. They looked great and we couldn’t quite guess their age. At one point I saw Mrs. Swanilla chatting with them later in our visit by the pool. She was asking them a lot about their trip to Mexico and how often they visit. They said they were in their late 60’s (which we would have never guessed that) and they have had a great time in the lifestyle over the years. But that they are at a point where they love to visit Desire, people watch and see others having a great time and they feel they are passing the torch to others that are in the lifestyle or are dipping their toes to find their place or set their own pace within their journey. They essentially were telling us that their play days are somewhat winding down and to enjoy life and just have a great time! We felt that was both really sweet and humbling at the same time.

We were finally able to grab a beach bed on our last full day there and as we laid there, we had some great moments. We had our speaker with soft sensual music playing while we were ready to fall asleep in the afternoon sun and shade with the ocean in front of us. We then noticed these clouds way in the distance of the ocean, and how dark they were. But also how fast they were approaching our beach. We grabbed our things and before we realized it we were running towards one of the bars to get out of the rain. It was fun because we just grabbed a drink and ended up meeting a lovely couple from Canada and from Kansas. The Canadian couple knew of the XClub and had been there a few times themselves. They told us some fun stories and of experiences they had while traveling as well. 

After the storm passed we realized the beach beds were soaking wet and decided to head to the pool and ended up spending more time with our friends from Texas, Oklahoma, Argentina, and Brazil. After a long afternoon of more partying and playing we headed to the hot tub to warm up from the rain. As we started to relax in the warm water, things started heating up in the hot tub between a lot of us in late afternoon. There was a lot of flirting, group kissing, touching and then the vibe just happened. It was very natural with so many sensual and sexy couples around. As things were heating up, we were making out while standing up in the hot tub with our new friends around us.

Mrs. Swanilla had me sit on the edge of the hot tub with the stairs just behind me. She proceeded to give me an incredible blowjob with so many sexy people around us enjoying themselves and others that needed a little more help than just 1 on 1 next to us. A lady we had chatted with earlier in the pool was outside the hot tub and walked up behind me, grabbed my cock and essentially was feeding it to Mrs. Swanilla. It took me a minute to realize who was holding my cock! As she was sucking me, she had this very sexy look in her eyes. That look of pure bliss while making eye contact the entire time she was sucking me. As I look around the hot tub as Mrs. Swanilla is eye fucking me with my cock in her mouth, I notice the mood changed quickly in the hot tub, and there were several couples engaging in fun sexual activities.

Many guys were sitting on the edge of the hot tub while they were all being pleasured. All of this while a warm tropical rain was coming down and just made it much more passionate.  As we realized it was time to get cleaned up for dinner and the theme night, the Sexy Brazilian couple invited us to dinner at Sahlo our last night. It was a lot of fun, as we had a long conversation about many things in life and talked at length about many things that we have in common. We all noticed The Texas couple were also a few tables away from us. We invited them to join us but they were having a quiet evening with just the two of them. We joined them after dinner for a mini celebration and drink before heading to our rooms to change for the theme night. 

When the Mood Strikes.....

One thing we learned is that you can’t force a vibe or a mood. Like any sexual situation, you have to be in the mood and have the right surroundings. We realized that while we had some very sexy times in the hot tub, it took a few times to find the right vibe and just let it happen. We discovered a lot of what appeals to us and what we may do differently next time. A hot tub full of naked people sounds hot,(and it can be), it’s the vibe and sexual tension in the air that can affect the flow of the time there. To be clear it has nothing to do with body image or age. There were people of all shapes, sizes, ages, colors and that didn’t affect our mood one way or another. But one thing that did was being in the middle of a hot sexual activity and things really heating up between us and others around us. Those few minutes when the stars are out at night, the mood is sensual and things go from laughs and flirting to passion and moans. But one thing we found distracting was people having conversations really close by was somewhat distracting as it was very late at night, and the mood between a lot of us was heating up. Don't get us wrong, we love talking to people and learning their stories. But there were a couple moments where it may have been better for all of us if we all moved to a bed or two nearby and focus on each other. However, there were 5 couples in the middle of "stuff" and we didn't want to ruin the moments by suggesting we all move over to the beds. 

We realize that the hot tub is very hot and can be sexual, it has to have the right vibe, and all. When we have been to lifestyle clubs, one thing we noticed in the playroom is no one is allowed in their street clothes, everyone has to be naked. It doesn’t mean you to have to be part of a group orgy, but at least be naked (with your towel) and your partner and lay on the bed or couch and take in the atmosphere. When we get naked in the locker room and head to the back play area the walk to the back is really hot and sensual. You leave the locker room where many people are nervous getting naked no matter how you slice it. Then walk into this huge sexy room with lots of beds, couches, and more and see all kinds of fun. Couples having fun, threesomes happening next to you, couples soft swapping, couples full swapping and couples just laying on the beds naked just watching or wanting to be watched. But the atmosphere is so hot with all the sounds, and all of the possibilities above really are a major turn on. Everyone is on an equal playing field if you will. Not that everyone is fair game but being naked in the area, letting people watch, letting people hear the juicy and sexy sounds that are happening. Wow! Need to take a break as Mrs. Swanilla decided to suck me as we write & read this blog post together! :)

So on one hand, we were looking for that type of vibe at Desire in the playroom and the hot tub area. We had it in the playroom one night but it wasn’t the right vibe. We had an incredibly hot sex in the hot tub with lots of involvement from others in our ‘circle of fun’ which we think about and whisper to each other still months after our trip. The thoughts of those nights are very hot and get us in the mood for sure! We enjoy having the pillow talk after a bottle of wine and whispering to each other what we saw, what we did to others together and separately, it gets us very hot and we can’t wait to return to meet new friends, see old friends and make new sensual memories!  


Kisses,


Mr. & Mrs. Swanilla


PS –  We have one more blog post coming soon about our last night at Desire. It’s our version of the snapshot that Mr. & Mrs. Jones from the We Gotta A Thing Podcast are known for sharing!